“Very Fine People” Don’t Tolerate Racism

I have been trying very hard to find a way to articulate my thoughts on what happened in Charlottesville over the weekend and the aftermath of those events without launching into a full blown tirade of curse words. There is angry and then there is a level above anger and I am not sure what it is called, but that is where I’m at.

After yesterdays press conference I want to make a few things clear to Donald Trump defenders/supporters.

  • Very fine people don’t wake up in the morning and decide to attend a rally planned by known Neo Nazi/White Supremacist.
  • Very fine people don’t march with people holding torches shouting “Jews will not replace us“. They leave, say something (like the counter-protesters) or stay home
  • Very fine people don’t march with people holding torches shouting “Blood and soil” a well known Nazi slogan
  • Very fine people look at what happened in Charlottesville and they are appalled, heartbroken, angry, scared that this is 2017 and this behaviour is being excused

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At the press conference yesterday Trump also said:

“I would do it the same way, because I want to make sure when I make a statement that the statement is correct. And there was no way of making a correct statement that early. I had to see the facts, unlike a lot of reporters.”

There are many examples of Trump jumping to comment without all the facts when he thinks a Muslim is responsible for example:

  • Pulse Nightclub in Orlando, less than 24 hours to comment and he called it a terror attack before the police released any information
  • The terrorist attack at the Ariana Grande concert in Manchester it took Trump less than 24 hours to comment calling it “evil”.
  • After the London terror attack it took less than 24 hours for Trump to comment

In 181 days he has made 836 false or misleading claims, yet now he wants all the facts before making a statement? Here are some examples where Trump has flat out made up shit with no facts:

  • He lies about the Chicago murder rate
  • He lied about an attack in Sweden that never happened
  • He called an attack in Manila a terrorist attack when it wasn’t
  • He claimed that hundreds of people from foreign countries have been charged with terrorism related offences in the US
  • Rise in the murder rate in the US

But when it is a white person who is responsible for the attack or it is an attack against a Muslim he needs facts first, or takes days to respond, if he responds at all.

And in Charlottesville he refuses to call it Terrorism! A reporter flat-out asks him and he dances around the question putting the ownest on the reporter to call it terrorism!

REPORTER: Two questions: Was this terrorism? And can you tell us how you are feeling about your chief strategist Steve Bannon?

TRUMP: Well I think the driver of the car is a disgrace to himself, his family and this country. You can call it terrorism. You can call it murder. You can call it whatever you want. I would just call it as the fastest one to come up with a good verdict. There is a question. Is it murder? Is it terrorism? Then you get into legal semantics. The driver of the car is a murderer. What he did was a horrible, horrible, inexcusable thing.

This man has shown people who he is again and again.

He is a bigot.

He is complaisant to racism and he isn’t making America great again, he turning America into a time bomb that is about to explode!

Lastly, I want to make this perfectly clear very fine people don’t make excuses for racists.

Be Your Own Valentine

Valentine’s day has gotten me in trouble in the past because my words were misconstrued by someone and it caused some issues at home. You see,  I sometimes refer to Valentine’s day as “Bound to be Utterly Disappointed Day” not because I get disappointed but because I know so many men and women who end the day in tears or mad because the day didn’t live up to the expectations they had in their minds. Sometimes it’s because they don’t have someone in their life to celebrate with or worse they stick with someone or start a relationship with someone just to not be alone for that day.  Most people end the day disappointed  when they don’t really need to be because they thought their partner was a mind reader and didn’t communicate their expectations, which is why my husband and I have not really celebrated Valentine’s Day as a couple for many years.
We talked about it, he told me how he felt about the day being too commercial and just another day were men and woman are forced to rush out and purchase gifts, buy/make elaborate dinners or do grand gestures to prove how great their love is when he feels it’s the everyday stuff that does that.

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It’s a baby!

It's a babySo, the cat’s outta the bag… I’m pregnant, and decided to find out the sex of the baby. Which apparently on your first go around is a no no. Which brings me to….

I’ve learned a lot during this life experience but today I am going to share a  few recent “lessons”.  First, the above mentioned one.

It seems there is some unspoken rule that you shouldn’t find out the sex of your baby the first time around. That part of the “joy” of pregnancy is the SURPRISE at the end when you learn if it’s a boy or a girl. (I put joy in quotes for a VERY good reason which I promise to explain in my next post).  I call BS!

Something else I learned is that it is extremely wrong of me to hope for one sex over the other. That I should just wish for a healthy baby. I once again call BS!

Another lesson is EVERYONE seems to think they can touch your belly when they feel like it or weigh in on your choice of names…uh let me think about that for a second…No.

So let me start with the first lesson:

It seems a lot of people had an “issue” with me knowing the sex, since it’s my first child and I don’t understand this. Whether this is my first child or my fifth, last time I checked in was MY child (and my husbands). I’m the one preparing for this child and my personality dictates that I need to plan, plan and plan some more. It causes me anxiety when I know a big event is coming up and I am not prepared. And folks this is a HUGE event. My entire life is going to be turned upside down and inside out and I NEED to hold on to any fragment of control I have left. And if that fragment of control is knowing the difference between choosing blue or pink for a blanket I’ll freaking take it! Not only that but,  I also was REALLY stressing out over it, because I can admit I was not in the market for a girl. Which brings me to my next “lesson”.

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